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I’m taking a break from my 7 for seven posts for a while (at least this week) after some recent changes, as I always desire just a little more privacy in transitional stages of my life. I thought it would be fun to do a throwback of when I use to do my #TheStruggleIsReal posts, as I navigate this new phase of my life and meet new people. As I wish for them to meet me more organically, rather than finding out too-personal things on my blog, this type of post allows me more ambiguity in the little details. Some of these things I may or may not have said on a date, and some of them you will be hoping to GOD I didn’t say these on a date (to which I most likely did…). Here goes.

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Just as I aimed to ease the Monday blues with my 7 for seven, I aim once again. Though this time, I need a good laugh — at my expense, because if I don’t do that every once in a while, I risk taking myself too seriously.
Upon announcing to my roommate one morning before work, “I had to talk myself into washing my hair this morning in the shower to avoid it looking greasy, but now I can’t talk myself into drying it, so now it just looks greasy anyway!”, her dead-pan response to me was, “The struggle is real.” That seems to be her go-to response to me quite often, and it’s since become my inner-mantra whenever I need to just stop, step outside of myself, and laugh at myself and my “problems.”  
Last week’s “struggles”:
1. “I just reported an actual penis on [dating website]. It’s official, online dating is amazing.”

2. “Instead of being the type of person who knows the right people to get the password to get into a speakeasy, I’m the type of person that just sneaks in behind someone. See?”

3. “Something that defines me as being a ‘lame old person’? Hmm. I once use to find excuses for not going out on a Friday night so I could stay in to watch Ghost Adventures. Zach, the host, is amazing. He’s the type of guy who will faux-hawk forever, dons Affliction shirts, and always skips leg day. I only wish I were as disproportionately confident as he is.”

4. “I have to be an actual adult again tomorrow. Ugh.”

5. “I resurrected you today [from the lake] and almost your phone (but I still think there’s hope!); I think that’s a win.”

6. “Pierce Brosnan was filming outside the Firehouse Lounge last night while I just stared blankly at him. Thought it was just a lame car commercial with some no-name. I had no clue it was him until I walked away. Missed my chance! He totally would have fallen for me!”

7. “Hmm, my celebrity crush is Cary Grant. Yeah, you’re right, he is dead, but this suits my similar unrealistic expectations in the real world, and I’m all about consistency.”

8. “I need to convince my parents to get that boat with the slide and grill on top. Easily done. It’d be so frat of us.”

9. “I’m going to ask him if I can borrow his unicorn [floaty]. …I’ve got to be careful how I phrase that.”

10. “Someone on [dating website] told me I was getting kind of old, and he needed to speed up the process because he assumed I probably wanted to start a family. Don’t know if I should be more offended by the implication that my eggs are growing old and stale or that he propositioned himself to give me a baby before asking me out on a date.”

11. “I hardly ever get angry, unless I’m in traffic. I spend most of the time muttering, ‘The left lane is for passing only. Passing only!,’ on repeat. It’s a waste of breathe, really, but it feels so dang good.”
Happy Monday! I hope you have a great week. Share your laughs with me!

xo, 


Lauren


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When my palms face the sun.

In the pool,

where I pretend the chlorine will

bleach my mistakes without turning my hair green,

the men turn skin into leather.

A man who preferred F bombs over cannon balls said,

“We’ve got to stop meeting this way.  Thought about you the other day when I picked up

some Heineken,”

but the man with hair longer than his patience said something by

not saying anything at all.

This time, when the mother insisted,

“Stay away from the lady with the book,

you’ll get her pages wet,”

I said, “It’s okay, the pages dry,”

and she smiled.

I never use a bookmark, because I always know where I left off.

In the Age of Silence,

people communicated only with their hands,

where I wouldn’t get into as much trouble with ambiguity.

Krauss’s words,”the lover might accidentally take to be the gesture, not at all dissimilar, for Now I realize I was wrong to love you.  These mistakes were heartbreaking.  And yet, because people knew how easily they could happen, because they didn’t go around with the illusion that they understood perfectly the things other people said, they were used to interrupting each other to ask if they’d understood correctly,”

landed softly in my cushioned palms because they were

always facing the sun.

I mixed the black print in with the spaces in between into the water around me because intention is overlooked in a world

without greys.

There was a time when the only thing that happened when my shoulder strap broke was that it made it easier to crawl out.

 


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#TheStruggleIsReal

Just as I aimed to ease the Monday blues with my 7 for seven, I aim once again. Though this time, I need a good laugh — at my expense, because if I don’t do that every once in a while, I risk taking myself too seriously.

Upon announcing to my roommate one morning before work, “I had to talk myself into washing my hair this morning in the shower to avoid it looking greasy, but now I can’t talk myself into drying it, so now it just looks greasy anyway!”, her dead-pan response to me was, “The struggle is real.” That seems to be her go-to response to me quite often, and it’s since become my inner-mantra whenever I need to just stop, step outside of myself, and laugh at myself and my “problems.”  

Last week’s “struggles”:

10. “That guy may get ahead one light after cutting me off, but I’ll get ahead in character building by digging deep and not shaking my finger at him.”

9. “I saw a trespassing sign after it was too late, then this dog started barking at me, and I imagined an enraged Clint Eastwood-esque character and a rifle, and I thought, ‘This is it.  This is how I’m going to die.'”

8. “I don’t like big chunks of meat, unless it’s between something.  Is that weird?”

7. “Did I wake you up last night after screaming and falling to the floor during the storm?  …only once?  Oh good.”

6. “Apparently there has been a man spotted jumping to the third floor balconies of our apartment complex.  I guess he took the red pill?”

5. “I just drove all the way back to the place where they did my car inspection to get the sticker they ‘forgot’ to give me and apparently they don’t do new stickers anymore.  I’m a ding-dong.”

4. “Honey, your favorite ‘color’ can be sparkles if you want it to be.  As a child, mine was always sea-foam-green.  My teachers had to ask me how to spell it.  I told them to read a crayon.”

3. “Ugh, my nails.”

2. “How does a single rock inevitably and accidentally always find a way into my tight shoes?  I could never achieve that kind of aim on purpose if I tried.”

1. “I don’t drunk dial.  I on-line shop.”


Happy Monday! I hope you have a great week. Share your laughs with me!


xo,


Lauren


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Sad News

This is incredibly heartbreaking news. Please send love to Rara.

The Matticus Kingdom

I have terrible news to share with the blogosphere today.

Horrible, no good, awful news.

Many of you knew him as Grayson Queen, author and artist extraordinaire.  Perhaps you’ve read one of his novels.  Perhaps you’ve purchased, or at least enjoyed, some of his paintings or sculptures…  Perhaps you knew that he was also Rara‘s husband, Dave.

I don’t have a lot of details, but I can confirm that Dave passed away earlier this week.

Please share this post wide and far.  Please say a prayer for Dave and Rara.  Please send her every ounce of spare energy you can muster.  She needs us.  Dave’s family and friends need us.

And send her mail to show her your love, your RawrLove:

Radhika Jaini WF0124
CIW LA 249 UP
16756 Chino-Corona Road
Corona, CA  92880

You don’t need to know what to say.  You don’t need to say anything…

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If you missed my last 7 for seven, I’m taking a little break from those posts.  When I started this blog, my Monday gratitude practice was just one of several of my posts on this blog, and now it’s the only one I come back to again and again.  It’s taught me so much; gratitude has changed my outlook on life and built a stronger foundation so that when times get tough, I never stay down for too long.  Even on days when it was tough to write, I was always glad that I did.  Although I’m taking a break from posting my 7 for sevens, I don’t think I will ever stop practicing gratitude.  In fact, I am going to continue writing them as if I were going to publish them and keep them private for the time being.  I think it may be fun to post an abbreviated version of them all together when I decide to bring the post back to see how much my life has changed (change is good!) from now until then.

Since I started this blog a little over two years ago (has it been that long!?),  I have always had a single focus:  How do we make the most out of what we have today and still yearn for something more?

It’s been about finding ways to live in the moment, appreciating the now, and dreaming big.  It’s all about balance.  And it is for that reason, I want to bring out something new on Mondays, other than only focusing on gratitude, and when I find that balance, I’ll bring back the old again as well.

As you may also know from following me, life has had its recent ups and downs, but I truly feel like I’m in the middle of a big shift.  It’s a good one, and I’m focusing on that.  So in this time, I may be a little more private about this transition, but I’m excited about new possibilities of what I will share with readers.

I don’t say this enough — I’m appreciative of this blog’s avid readers, the passers-by, and the new ones.  Whenever we can share our thoughts with strangers, who often don’t feel very much like strangers, we can relate and exchange ideas together — often even life-altering ones.  It reminds me of how interconnected we are and how we shouldn’t forget that.

I hope to inspire you to reflect on all you have to be grateful & that your week brings you even more positivity + balance + bliss!

xo,

Lauren