Let’s face it // Mondays stink. Or at least we typically expect them to stink. That is why, every Monday, I post seven positives from the previous seven days of the week as a reminder of what we have so that the week starts out on an upswing. There is much truth in the belief that happy people attract good things, so it is important to start the week out right. Sometimes it’s the more grand, but other times, it’s the simple things.
1. Dinner Party. Tuesday night, a friend of mine had a dinner party at her beautiful new home. Even though I was exhausted from a couple of long, hard work weeks, I was happy I went because it was good to talk to someone who is just so genuinely kind, and the break during the work week — being forced to relax and unwind — was appreciated.
2. School Victories. I had to laugh at my school administrator, though I was appreciative; he gave me a best picture award at a faculty meeting for the teacher video I made for curriculum night (I talked about it in last week’s post). He said it made him want to be in my classroom, so that made me smile, especially considering I felt my video lacked… skill. Ha! I was also evaluated this week, even though I didn’t expect it, and it went perfectly. Phew! Two victories in a row felt pretty good.
3. Saturday in the Sun. My week did not go as expected to say the least, but I joined my friends on Saturday for some fresh air and sat on a patio socializing all day and night. The company was much-needed, and I met a couple of kind new people as well, and that helped to occupy my busy mind. Although I didn’t expect to, I had quite a few tear inducing laughs as well. A waiter dropped glasses and/or plates on six separate occasions right in front of us (we counted — it’s no exaggeration) in the duration of our time there and each time used it as an opportunity to start up conversations that had my friends and I looking at each other as though we were in the twilight zone. At one point, he looked up from scooping up a shattered glass to say, “Hey, at least I’m attractive.” Being the intuitive person I am, I knew this was an awkward transition for a cheesy line because it made no sense, and then he validated my thoughts with, “You are all attractive, too.” Despite his fumbles and awkward segway, the compliment made me smile… and then laugh extremely hard. Thanks, kid. I needed that.
4. Sister Sunday. Sunday, I hung out with my sister, her hubs, and pup at their house, and then we decided to act on our sweet tooth (seriously, how do you pluralize an idiom?) and pick up some dessert at Sugar Mama’s, a cute little dessert shop in Austin. It hit the spot — both the sweets and the visit with my sister.
5. Paper Doll Dress. In my last seven for 7, I mentioned my sister’s new dress line. She is now promoting her line by making herself into a paper doll and overlaying the dresses she designed on top of her photograph. Isn’t she precious? So smart, that one. She named her second featured dress after me, so she posted the above picture. I know she loves and cares about me and that love couldn’t have manifested in her sweet post at a better time.
6. Epiphany 1. Being true to oneself sometimes means allowing oneself to feel feelings even when they are not convenient, like fear and doubt. I can be a self-assured person and still react honestly to what’s in front of me, and should, without fear that the other person will reject it as inauthentic. People with open feelings allow themselves to be moved by the tides because they are affected by the people they love. That’s real, and I won’t allow anyone to make me believe otherwise.
7. Epiphany 2. Fact is not feeling.
I can feel discomfort and anxiety when vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean my feeling is based on something factual or that anyone outside of myself is causing it. Sometimes with vulnerability and when feelings come into play, if I’m not careful, past relationships, experiences, trust issues, trauma, can all cloud my objective thinking, and it’s as equally important for me to remind myself that other people are not immune to doing this, too. However, all I can do is realize this for myself, and that has to be enough. I love well; I do a good job of showing my love. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
8. And One to Grow On. Last night, I went on a night walk, or strut, as I prefer to call it, as the AC in my apartment went out and the circulation outside was much nicer. I always do my best thinking while strutting. Ha! A friend told me a good while back, “Lauren, don’t allow anyone to control your feelings. Only you have control over them.” That didn’t sink in as much as it did last night. No one can hurt me. No one. I am in complete control of my own emotions. I own them. That’s so freeing.
And dear reader, I hope that frees you, too.
I hope to inspire you to reflect on all you have to be grateful & that your week brings you even more positivity + balance + bliss! Feel free to share your seven with me as well / or even just a couple!
Have a wonderful week!