Let’s face it // Mondays stink. Or at least we typically expect them to stink. That is why, every Monday, I post seven positives from the previous seven days of the week as a reminder of what I have so that the week starts out on an upswing. There is much truth in the belief that happy people attract good things, so it is important to start the week out right. Sometimes it’s the more grand, but other times, it’s the simple things.
1. The Power in Surrendering. Last Tuesday, when I most needed the reminder, someone wise shared the above quote with me. To be honest, I’ve never given the serenity prayer much mind, but suddenly it fits so perfectly in my life right now where uncertainty is the only thing of which I am certain. The biggest part of this for me was just trusting in what I can control and allowing myself to hold a rein.
2. Orange is the New Black. Like most fans of this show, I was disappointed in the last season of Orange is the New Black. It just felt a little “jump-the-shark” and lost what I so liked about the first season. Well, this new season brings back all of those things I loved, and it was a true pleasure to watch. Be prepared for your mind to be opened (more), for some hearty laughs, and few good cries. Okay, maybe a big cry. The material is poignant and important.
3. Dancing at Donn’s A dear friend of mine was in town last Wednesday, so we met up for drinks at a hole-in-the-wall country bar downtown fashioned out of old train cars. It was so great catching up and knocking back cold beers on a hot day in Texas. When the live band started playing, the dance floor quickly filled up with mostly men in their eighties — who knew at the age of thirty-four that I would finally meet my sweet spot!? Ha! My friend and I spotted the man in the photo above, and decided we couldn’t leave the place until I danced with him (Don’t you worry — I challenged my friend right back and made him dance with the cougar who was flirting with him earlier that night — we’re even). And so I did… turns out this ladies’ man has no clue what to do with a lady, as he didn’t know how to lead and scolded me the whole time for taking it upon myself. After that, I barely sat down, as the rest of the bar full of elderly men wanted to show him up and show him exactly how it’s done — and that, they did. It was a blast.
4. Listen to Other People’s Stories. Truly listen. There is something so cathartic and healing in listening to the lessons other people learn through their experiences. I’ve talked about Lea Thau’s podcast Strangers more than I am willing to admit recently — but I’ve decided I’m going to unabashedly continue fan-girling. Every episode I listen to on my runs teaches me something new, and I can almost immediately relate it to something I’m currently going through, whether directly or indirectly. The first story that knocked me over this week was a series — the story of Jeni, a young woman my age going through treatments for a rare form of cancer. I won’t give much away because I want you (yes, you, any of you!) to listen to it and hear it for yourself, but it just gave me so much perspective. While some of us are stressing about the small stuff, this woman is just trying to live. Of course, our pains are all relative, and none of it matters less, but it just puts so much in perspective — I have so much to be grateful for — so much. I am so happy and so ready to feel fulfilled even without all the things I think I need in my life. Truly. If you remember her story, you can never allow yourself to take anything for granted anymore. I think it’s very possible to make this an immediate change. Gradual change is not necessary. We can all make the decision to do this RIGHT NOW. The second story I listened to was about wealth, so obviously I couldn’t relate to this directly – ha! However, there was something that Moby (yep, the Moby) said that really made me dig deep in regards to building relationships, “I’d rather be open and make mistakes than closed off and defensive and never make mistakes. The consequences of being too cautious are much worse than the consequences of mistakes.”
5. Freedom. A simple one — but sometimes these are the best — This was my first week where I didn’t have anything previously planned after being off for the summer from work. Wahoo!! See what I mean? Don’t have much I can complain about.
6. Saturday Drinks. A few friends and I met spontaneously at a bar up in North Austin. Although a bit of a drive for me, it was so nice to get out, have some laughs, drinks, and good food and conversation.
7. Be Vulnerable for Me. I’ll be vague here, and I’m sorry, but I’d be lying if I didn’t mention this as one of my favorite things this week although it was private. When someone else is finally vulnerable for you, it is one of the best feelings – as this means someone cares enough to let down their guard, even if that means risking something big. But then again — “The consequences of being too cautious are much worse than the consequences of mistakes.” We could all stand to learn the same lesson. We could all learn to love one another with abandon. We need more of that in the world.
I hope to inspire you to reflect on all you have to be grateful & that your week brings you even more positivity + balance + bliss! Feel free to share your seven with me as well / or even just a couple!
Have a wonderful week!