Let’s face it // Mondays stink. Or at least we typically expect them to stink. That is why, every Monday, I post seven positives from the previous seven days of the week as a reminder of what I have so that the week starts out on an upswing. There is much truth in the belief that happy people attract good things, so it is important to start the week out right. Sometimes it’s the more grand, but other times, it’s the simple things.
1. Home Sweet Home. After spending a few nights away from home for the holiday, I was happy to return to my own place with my own bed and my own things. Despite loving the time spent with my family, sometimes it’s those little things that make life so good. This past Monday, I had a very minor surgery. My doc said I had a crazy pain tolerance (my sis says I’m now primed for a future home birth — ha!), but the meds made me feel less than mighty. I recovered by lounging around my apartment listening to my new Sam Cooke album I had purchased with a Christmas gift-card from one of my students and watched a marathon of HBO’s Girls. Aaaaah, recovery isn’t so bad.
2. Ladies Who Lunch. Despite still feeling puny the next day, it was nice to get out of the house for a bit, even if just for an hour, and meet a girlfriend downtown for lunch. It was a nice change of pace from lounging around in PJs for the last several days. Sometimes when I’m off work and on vacation, I need a good reason to wear anything other than lounge or athletic wear. Real pants felt good. The company felt good, too, of course.
3. College Town. By Wednesday, I was feeling almost like myself again, so I was happy to get an invitation to go out. We drove out to a nearby college town that was nearly a ghost town with the students away for the holiday. It was a half-way point to meet their friends who were here from out of town, and I was happy to go along for the ride. We ate good food at a so-so restaurant and then partied like we were making up for the college kids being out of town. Again, the change of pace felt good, until the morning after… They just don’t make livers like they use to!
4. NYE. NYE was the perfect pace for me this year. It’s typically one of my least favorite holidays, as it almost never lives up to the expectations I once had of it. Driving scares me on this night (besides the drunkards, considering my family once ended up in an icy ditch one year, saying Happy New Year in a tilted Greyhound, it’s a wonder! — but that’s another story), and the pains of not getting a New Year’s kiss, no matter how cliché, is never-the-less a major bummer. Luckily, this NYE was exactly what I had hoped it would be. It was low-key but good. A guy I’m dating invited me to a small dinner party with his endearing friends, and the host, who is a chef, made us this incredible meal. We sat around watching “Drunk History,” and like the true thirty-somethings we are, we discovered the New Year only just after midnight. Whoops. Anticlimactic much? Whatever, we’ve done this before, and we just enjoyed each other in the present moment rather than a cheesy countdown watching the ball drop. I’d take that any year. My date and I finished the night listening to Sinatra and drinking his favorite whiskey, and no one had to worry about missing out on a New Year’s kiss. So far, I’m pretty okay with 2016.
5. New Year, New Me. I spent the first day of 2016 mostly by myself, which is actually exactly how I wanted to spend it. In this new year, I am comfortable in my own skin, and because of that, I enjoy the presence of my own company. My hope is that, instead of that sounding strange or vain, that it comes across rather as (as much as I shy from this buzzy word), self-assured. I made myself a full-blown semi-traditional meal (all for myself), complete with black-eyed peas, collard greens, candied onions, garlic, bacon, feta, and a poached egg over brown rice. I can’t lie, it was super delicious, and I’m not even a fan of black-eyed peas. I enjoyed it while thumbing through the 2016 edition of the Austin Bucketlist and dreamed/manifested a really f*cking good year. It’ll happen, alone, coupled up, doesn’t matter — I’m in charge, and it feels amazing.
6. Game Night. A friend invited me and a great group of people over for a night of Cards Against Humanity Saturday night. We drank warm (spiked!) apple cider, gorged on pizza, and enjoyed each other’s company on one of the last remaining days of the winter break. It was a rainy, cold night, so we sat around their large patio table covered in blankets, but the warm drinks and laughter kept us feeling pretty darn cozy.
7. “The Way Every Sunday Should Be Spent.” I’ll make an attempt at being really open here, without revealing anything uncomfortable — which is sometimes a delicate balance, though leaving this out would risk dishonesty. Sometimes signals are annoyingly vague, and sometimes they are pretty darn clear. When faced with juxtaposed actions from different people (past vs. present), sometimes it is only the new contrasted action that clears up the old. I’ve learned that words are much more hollow and that action is akin to EVERYTHING. Allowing someone to tell you who they are and what they want is so 2015; let them show you. Something a little less vague — when someone truly wants to communicate or see me, no matter how busy, they will make time — they will find it. And even though he was busy and soon leaving to go out of town, someone made real time for me, and we spent the day (as we both claimed) “the way every Sunday should be spent.” I may be a slow learner, but knowing what feels right and good is the best crash course.
I hope to inspire you to reflect on all you have to be grateful & that your week brings you even more positivity + balance + bliss! Feel free to share your seven with me as well / or even just a couple!
Have a wonderful week!